Every situation will throw up winners as well as losers. Defeat can be turned into a victory by a shift in the attitude. Those who lose, in a way, have a better chance to be successful. These people work harder and smarter the next time while the winners have the tendency to take it easier. It is sort of that fable, the hare and the tortoise. The people, who lose, as long as they keep their head on their shoulders and a positive spirit and don’t lose belief in themselves, can be winners as well.
The world is full of examples of people who were considered failures and then went on to become super successful. Or did not have the right start in life but persevered against whatever situation life threw at them, to overcome all the obstacles and become successful.
These people saw something special in themselves that helped them ignore the opinions of others about them and to remain self-confident. Loss can be unnerving and depressing if we lose faith in ourselves. If we remain focused on how others see us in our defeat, we will be stuck forever. If we start believing that others are laughing at us, pitying us or thinking any less about us because of our failure we need to ignore that and focus on ourselves instead.
The first step is the acceptance of the situation. I have mentioned this before in the words of Oprah Winfrey. And also we need to accept that we lost because we did lack something. There is no point in playing the blame game. We will end up hurting ourselves more. Focus on the mistakes, understand them and try to work on those areas. Improve ourselves. Channel our energies towards something more suitable to us. This may help us to shift onto something bigger and better.